Just quoting from a post “A Girl Named Lucky” recently made:
Everyone says I love you.
Everyone says that everyone has a great love affair at one point or another – usually more than one. Or, if not a great love affair, then at least a serious and engaging relationship.But I can’t help but think that that just can’t be so. There must be people out there who never know what it’s like to love and be loved in return.The clergy make for an obvious, if not absolute, example. Then there are people who have the odds stacked against them. People who die young, people like the guy in that Sociology video we watched in first year, who said, “I would prefer to have sex with a girlfriend because it is very expensive to go to the Daily Planet every time you get horny”. People who are hideously ugly or deformed, like that guy in Dark Angel (which is not to say that such people never find love, but that the odds are stacked a little higher against them).Then, if you can accept those possibilities, you might open yourself to the possibility that perhaps perfectly normal people, who have nothing discernibly wrong with them, might also live a life free from romantic passion. Just because of circumstance, perhaps personality barriers built up over time and so on. Being hardened by the circumstance.So it’s not true that everyone falls in love at some point, is it?
My comment on this post:
The ideas in your post occurred to me a little over a year ago, and consequently I entered a period of abstinence in which I was determined to discover a self who was capable of being completely fulfilled, not only without love, but without the CONCEPT of love. I don’t know if I “succeeded” or not, I’m certainly glad I went through those long months grappling and struggling with how much love and sex means to me and means to life.
In the end, love cannot be controlled, so these thoughts are futile. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. Love can’t be captured, it flows in and out of your hands and you have to let it go.
Wow. Like deep man.
